I am just browsing through old EQ4KIDZ evaluations and tidying up files on my computer and have this overwhelming sense of having all those kids in front of me. Each one of them with their precious worries, ideas, ways of operating in the world-all the tapestry of emotions and experiences we shared together. What a privilege it was to work with these children.

And yesterday-looking through old photos of these children-how much many of them have grown now and I wonder if they use their EQ knowledge? I do hope so! Each course we do is quite a deep journey and I am starting to think nearly every child needs to do it twice.

We are now writing it as a curriculum for schools and yet the simple process of the 4 main modules has worked so well so do not want to lose that!
I am re-drafting the parenting course to make it a little less cerebral and more ” eqish”-so the prents can discover some of the joy of the art work/symbolic rituals/dynamic drama themselves.

This last course I conducted in Singapore was very special as we worked over 2 days and it felt very intense. The children came together as a group very quickly and the parents were exceptionally supportive. I think we should consider an EQ4KIDZ newsletter to go to all former participants of the course.

I am beginning to see how the after course coaching opportunities are so important-these kids need follow-up and to know they are still supported.

This EQ4KIDZ journey has been a very deep one and I think in many ways it has transformed our work at ICE and well and truly percolated down to our academic enhancement sessions.


We believe the use of the term DYSLEXIA is not helpful as it so broadly used and education experts have major disagreements over the exact meaning.
We DO believe that some children of normal to high intelligence levels experience difficulties with literacy development. I.e. they have problems with reading and writing.
We have helped thousands of these children to improve literacy levels and have noticed they usually present with 5 or more of these particular indicators:
 Avoidance of reading and writing
 Procrastination of homework and all literacy oriented tasks
 Poor phonemic awareness
 Difficulties learning phonics.
 Global, visual learning styles.
 Often well developed art skills.
 Poor self-esteem
 Poor handwriting
 Difficulty blending sounds as they read and write
 Often have trouble with rhyming skills
 Difficulty with eye tracking, convergence and focus
 Perform better when text is enlarged
 Often left handed or a little mixed up about handedness
 Difficulty with midline skills.
 Often talented with maths-especially when only oral responses are needed. As soon as written problems are given, these children lose confidence!
 Poor fine-motor and gross motor skills
 Poor auditory discrimination and auditory memory skills
 Difficulties with concentration
 Often have a parent who may have experienced similar difficulties
 Family history often has individuals who are unusually creative, entrepreneurial in nature but sometimes very disorganised and somewhat “global” in their approach to time management!
These difficulties vary a great deal from child to child and require careful, testing and monitoring.
Most children can be helped and can reach normal levels of literacy. However, in our experience, boring and monotonous tuition programs that simply repeat information, do not work well for these creative children.
The programs must be mostly in the educational arena (administered by trained educators) rather than emphasising ancillary educational services. It is only in the education arena that results can be properly assessed and translated into an effective remedial program.
They DO require repetition and a very carefully sequenced phonological program that thoroughly trains them for careful decoding skills.
They also need very carefully sequenced reading material and a spelling program based on phonics and sight words.
A program such as Brain Gym is needed to strengthen body-brain connections and encourage smooth midline skills and maximum brain stimulation. This is integrated into the Victoria Carlton approach.
We use our own Victoria Carlton programs at ICE. These programs combine all the above requirements. Her teachers are trained in all these concepts and know exactly how to help each and every child in their care.
The recovery programs can be taken in individual or small group mode and according to our own research, our experience the group mode is slightly more effective.
Victoria offers trains thousands of teachers in Australia and SE Asia in her methods and approaches. Early childhood, Primary, High-school and learning specialists from groups such as SPELD attend her courses and experience excellent results.
Victoria has worked with children with mild to very severe literacy problems for over thirty years. Her personally developed programs and approaches have led to recovery and successful school careers for children who had been consigned to the literacy “scrap-heap”.
She believes that learning should be enjoyable, multisensory in nature and should carefully build the damaged self-esteems of children who have experienced difficulties.
There are many experts, agencies and groups that purport to have the quick “answer” for learning literacy difficulties. (Often very expensive answers)
Unfortunately there are no quick fixes and these children need strong tuition twice a week over 12-18 months to make solid improvements.
The hard work is well worth the effort as strong literacy skills are a pre-requisite to most careers and lead to the wonderful worlds available in books.
Neanderthal cavemen with literacy difficulties would not have been disadvantaged but modern day children ARE!


For some years we have been experimenting with visualisations to help our young writers to find their “voice”.

I was watching our children tonight-they were completely absorbed and seemed to just “fall” into an imaginative, meditative state!

We lit a special candle to celebrate the end of winter and then dimmed the lights and read POWER-FLAME (available on website from Thurs)-the children stared into the flame and listened intently.
When we began the 7 mins writing we always do after a visualisation, it was so quiet-these kids were IN the experience!
Some kids who don’t generally write much did 4 pages!! Best of all one of my most reluctant writers wrote three quarters of a page-what a cause for a celebration-this method really works!! It seems to open the imagination and help thoughts fly onto the page.


Why do so many kids HATE maths? I work with kids who never get to see how elegant, satisfying and fascinating this subject is!!! In a world full of uncertainty and random happenings, maths offers logical patterns, predictable outcomes and fascinating insights! The regular use of maths sharpens logic-maths intelligence and helps develop a sense of order and harmony for us all.

To awake this love of maths, as educators we must provide maths games, maths related art, “hands-on” maths so children can really “see” what they are doing and truly understand at a deep level.

We seem to note these problems with children around 8-9 years-just the time that children are often denied the relevant, practical experiential learning they need for a thorough understanding of maths concepts. It is never too late though and I note with pleasure our children at ICE on the floor with games and fun-all learning maths at all ages!


I have just come away from a long staff training evening and feel so respectful and honoured by my wonderful staff. I looked around the room and suddenly realised how blessed I am! Each person there represents an important gift for the children at ICE-our teachers give their love, creativity and skills to empower our children to reach their potential.
Teachers often lack self-esteem and do not realise their potential to transform the future by their work.

We are going to give some more of our REFOCUS workshops to help teachers realise their awesome potential
I am truly proud to be an educator and to work with such dedicated professionals!


So what is really happening in UK? Why these terrible meaningless actions-violence/looting/innocent people losing lives/loss of property etc?
Where were the parents of the 11 years old/the 12 year olds etc??
This is so sad and is a real wake-up call for ALL of us-could easily happen here in Aus!
Some of these kids were needy/unemployed etc-but many were not. The divide between kids and their local community is so wide- kids are unlikely to torch the local corner shop if they KNOW them. The pace we live at and our poor understanding of what really holds communities together combine to create this sad situation. We are ALL responsible and we need to give these kids the time they need-to listen to them-see what they feel/need-listen to their frustrations and stop parenting at speed-it does not work.
Teachers need to make time to listen to kids-to note the troubled ones and to make sure they get the help they need. This is all EQ stuff in so many ways and makes me think EQ4KIDZ is probably our most important course!

And-community-how can we help young people to feel less alienated and a REAL part of our community-affirmed/loved/needed with their skills utilised and recognised?
Let’s learn from this and help these kids to healthy, happy lives and close this terrible divide between them and us-they need us and we need them! We are the parents/aunties/uncles/grandparents/teachers etc-we must re-connect and give real time to heal the rifts. This really is about social responsibility-OURS!


So-home at last! What a wonderful holiday-so many ideas, images and memories competing for my attention! To my huge surprise (and probably due to the addition of some red wine!) I slept soundly on my way down to Singapore. Then 2 wonderful days for massage, rest and meetings and home to OZ. So sad to say goodbye to Jess and our wonderful time but we will be there again next year!

The JOLLY LEARNING conference was marvellous and will happen again next July. I shared highlights from the conference with my staff tonight and happy to report they all did a marvellous job without me. Our manager of educational programs, Danielle, has totally organised, innovated and wonderfully managed ICE while we were away. She has re-started our program for 3-5 year olds-ICE-CREAMS and today we planned the launch of JOLLY MUSIC on Saturday mornings. We are offering this JOLLY MUSIC to 5-8 year olds and very excited about this world-class, excellent music program. It is based on the Kodaly method and gives kids a great background in music and raises musical intelligence.

This Saturday we are beginning SPARKY BRAINS -a program for bright children in need of extra stimulation and challenge. I am so happy that we have finally found the time for this much asked for  program.

We are up to week 2 for our EQ4KIDZ cycle and I am reflecting on a conversation I have had with a colleague. We are so concerned that depression, sadness, anxiety about exams and tests are really rife amongst young people- here in OZ and also for our children in Singapore and the region. We need to ensure children learn practical strategies to increase resilience, increase confidence and learn to deal with strong feelings-especially those of anger, disappointment, frustration and sadness. They need to learn how to “flick a switch” to interrupt these negative tracks and help themselves to a slice of happiness! We DO teach them that negative feelings are natural and that we certainly cannot control all that happens to us-HOWEVER-we want them to know practical strategies to crawl out of the black pit. We will be offering training to ALL Aussie schools to implement EQ4KIDZ from early next year.

We ALL need these EQ enhancing strategies! To this end, we are resurrecting our EQ4BUSINESS and general EQ programs for adults.

If together we can save just one young person from depression and even worse, we will have achieved something worthwhile.



One day left in the frosty Isle!!! (Is this really summer-did I REALLY spend summers on the beach here as a kid???)

I have dragged my poor son from Church to Church in Norwich looking for a Viking porch I KNOW is here somewhere-today I will give him a day off and reflect and just enjoy having time in this loveliest of all medieval towns!

I have been to Ely Cathedral and shivered in wonder yet again at all that rich history and just finished reading about it in THE WORDSMITH’S TALE. What a feast of pictures, sacred and not so sacred memories wrapped up in those stones.

While at Ely I bought a tiny medieval style notebook for re-writing goals.

This will be my happy task on that dark, dark night from the Northern to Southern hemisphere-when everyone but me sleeps!


So-only 2 days left in the UK and then back to Singapore for a couple of days to relieve jet lag and have some meetings.

I feel renewed-have not had a long holiday like this for so long.

So many images are competing for space in my head and heart.

It was so good to attend the JOLLY LEARNING conference in London-met loads of interesting people and learned more about this wonderful program. It makes me sad to see the press here about low literacy levels when UK has the answer-same in Aus. I have just written an article about this for THE PARENTS’ PAPER in Perth. We HAVE to teach these basics or kids are severely disadvantaged. There is an awful lot of “fuzzy-think” going on in education!

I love the JOLLY MUSIC program and we will be offering it at all levels in Perth and integrating a lot more of it into lessons. I am convinced that MUSICAL INTELLIGENCE is vitally important to children as it helps their basic sense of rhythm/timing and concentration. It also helps enormously with listening skills-a real problem with so many kids at the moment!

Since leaving the conference Martin and I have planned and commenced our own reading series-very exciting. We have phonics readers and readers with sight words and specific sentence patterns-lots of repetition. It is incredible how a holiday can clear the cobwebs and allow ideas to coalesce!

Paris was amazing as always. We attended Mass at Notre Dame, ate far too much and wandered streets with happy hearts and open minds. There is always so much to see and “grok” there.

I noticed a huge amount of litter this time, plus aggression on the streets-have not really picked this up before- sad.

St Germain on the last day-wonderful bars/restaurants and amazing shop fronts.

Our hotel had a beautiful walled garden -the sort that makes me want to lock myself in for days and just write and draw!

Rhodes was the most amazing experience. The people were so relaxed and friendly and the Christening was amazing. (Christening was reason we actually went!) Greek Orthodox Churches are so richly decorated and all the lights on make them look like Christmas!

The beaches were fascinating for me as so different to Aussie ones-mainly pebbles and sun-lounges all laid out. I lay on a lounge every day-only a metre from the water and just watched families from all over Europe playing/relaxing. It felt like the centre of the world to hear so many languages at once-and to top it off-there was the outline of Turkey in front of me!

We were very blessed because we stayed at an amazing place called HERMES hotel-new town behind us/old walled town to right, harbour in front and beach to left-paradise! We had a 180 degree view from our room and cool breezes blowing over the balcony right onto our bed each night.

The food-ah the food-breakfast with thick yoghurt that would not even run off the spoon, golden honey and the best olives and fetta I have ever tasted!

Every night was a feast of Greek food and great local wines-some dieting coming up!

One day we visited Lindos-on a donkey up to the Crusader fort and then by foot to the Acropolis and to look at St Paul’s Bay-what an amazingly sacred, strange and wonderful place it is!

So-now in Norwich and soaking up history, ghost walks, spending precious moments with my son Jesse and re-connecting with my earth-Norwich being the city of my childhood. When I am here I always have this strange feeling of peeking into all the corners of my past, looking at what my past might have been if my parents did not migrate and staring into the faces of Norfolk people my age and imagining I might have known them!

So-I am feeling a bit sad to leave but also eager to get back and see children, parents, Joanna, friends etc. Danielle has manged ICE so well and I am looking to giving her some well earned time off!

We have had a parent pass away so some sadness as this lady was very dear to the local community and to us!

So-2 days to pack and worry about excess baggage, soak up all the history and son-love I can and then the long journey back. I feel like I am re-surfacing after a massive, deep sleep with the most wonderful, strange dreams!

I would somehow like to create a montage of all that has happened-want to pin down these ephemeral images and see a pattern-and get a shape to it all. Maybe when we look at all the thousands of photos I will be able to consider this.

I think my brain is simply soaked in so many new images and it will take a while to sort them. I wonder if this is how kids feel when a lot is happening and they are not sure which bits to concentrate on? This could be why art always seems to help them-think it might help me as well!



I am sitting at St Pancras station waiting to go to Paris and then Rhodes (volcano permitting!)

What a trip this has been-a wonderful 11 days in Singapore-consolidating programs, meeting potential licencees etc and then to London. London-so full of excitement/weird sights/feeling that anything could happen at any stage! Running around art galleries-soaking up favourite paintings plus lovely sunshine-and then IT arrives! IT being a nasty, nasty virus/flu/whatever-the sort that saps you-sucks up all your energy and just leaves you dreaming of pillow! I had forgotten to rest and pushed myself to the limit-this is a real lesson-woke up 2 days ago feeling fine and thought about the real meaning of health and being in harmony. People like me tend to dwell too much in our heads and I am going to remedy this. Diet/exercise/timeout for dreaming-will all get my attention! So often this has happened in my life-go on holidays when absolutely worn out and all reserves gone!

So-my joy button is back on and Paris is beckoning with all the delicious cafe sitting, ideas gathering and totally relaxed feelings I always associate with it.

Norwich was as always wonderful. I don’t think I have ever seen a city that has so much to offer!