We are all familiar with the 2 year old temper tantrums and feel sorry for parents as they try to coax angry (and often very cute) children to calm down.
We feel less sorry for parents of older children who “lose it” in public. These kids are often ridiculed and teased by their peers and in fact goaded as they provide ready entertainment in the classroom.
We tend to label parents of these children as laissez-faire, ineffective and uncaring and yet the reverse is often the course.
Some kids have huge problems coping with big emotions and need help to handle their anger. They don’t want to be out of control and desperately need intervention. It is as if they have more triggers than other kids and need to desensitise them.
We help students with anger management problems within our individual and group learning sessions and employ a range of very practical measures to help children self-regulate.
Please email me on victoria@vcprograms.com for specific advice and recommendations, or call Victoria Carlton programs on 92777596 or 0409911135.
We also have our EQ4KIDZ and ART FROM THE HEART programs to help children understand their feelings and develop a more positive mindset and higher levels of resilience. We help these children grow an extra “skin” so they can lengthen the time from stimulus to response.
They CAN all be helped but it takes time, patience and persistence. Their parents need support, empathy and encouragement- not unhelpful criticism.
These links have some helpful ideas:
https://raisingchildren.net.au/toddlers/behaviour/crying-tantrums/tantrums
https://childmind.org/article/why-do-kids-have-tantrums-and-meltdowns/